Struggling with Breakup in 5 Much Easier Steps

Can you remember the time you fell down and got your knees wounded when you were still a toddler? Most probably you sobbed, asked your mother to put a bandage on it, ate ice cream for consolation and then, continued playing with your neighbors. Dealing with breakup follows a somewhat similar process. Well, it can be disheartening, baffling and disturbing as the stab of detachment brings you down. But knowing your capabilities during this tough phase might help you avoid being the most emotional person on earth.

You can feel.

Pain is like your shadow in the first stage of separation. Even if you hide yourself under the covers or run miles away, you always carry it within you. Considering your emotional, physical and financial investment in the relationship, it would really hurt if it didn’t go well. If it was just another fling in another corner, it wouldn’t trouble you at all. So to free yourself from it in the earliest time possible, accept it willingly.

You can keep your self-worth.

When you are dismayed with the things happening in your life, you tend to look down on yourself. You lose your confidence and self-worth. This should not be the case. Just remember that having a love story with a sad ending doesn’t make you less of a person. Your segment with your ex and your dealing-with-breakup process are just two chapters in your book. So keep your self-esteem as you live the other chapters in your life.

You can stop blaming.

If you’ve hurt your ex because of your stupidity and carelessness, learn to forgive yourself. If his or her awful words or unfaithful ways caused you pain, learn to forgive others. As an old saying goes, "To err is human, to forgive is divine." Spreading divinity is much better than harboring ill feelings. It feels lighter and it gives you peace of mind as well.

You can carry on.

Look ahead and say goodbye to your terrible memories. History will record what has occurred in your life but your present and your future are still in your hands. To help you move on, look for diversions that will distract you from the painful process. You can have a marathon of sci-fi movies, grow different vegetables in your yard or play Plants vs. Zombies again from the first level. Choose your own exciting diversion.

You can grow in love again.

Whether you get back together with your ex or you date someone else, learn to love again. Being skeptical might guard you but it can also hinder you from putting trust into the relationship. Without trust, there’s no real compassion. Be brave enough to take risks again. It will require much courage and compassion but since that’s the essence of life, it’s worth trying.

When you’re dealing with breakup, you’re like pouting over a topsy-turvy room. But the thing is it doesn’t remain that way for good. As long as you choose to, you can vacuum the dust, put things in order and spray some freshener. Cool and tidy as it used to be, it can entertain visitors once more.

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