Will My Ex Boyfriend Come Back? Here's How to Get Him Back

Published: 15th October 2010
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Are your boyfriend just tell you that he has no feeling for you anymore? If he did, you must be confused on what to do now. After all, you still care for him. The first thing you will most likely ask yourself is "Will my ex boyfriend come back?" The answer to that question depends entirely on you and how you handle this break up. There are two ways you can handle the ending of a relationship. They're the right approach and the wrong one. Doing the right thing will open a window of opportunity to get back together once again. Of course, you're going to need to put some efforts into it.

Recognize the Cause of the Break Up

So why don't we look at some of the basics first. Why did your boyfriend leave you? In order to keep him after you get him back, you will need to discover the answer to this question. Once you find the answer to that, you will then need to find out how you can make things different when you get together. Make no blunder about it; things will have to change if your relationship is to prevent another break up.

In the first paragraph of this article, you were told that there are two ways of dealing with a break up, ‘the right way’ and ‘the wrong way.’ We are going to talk about the wrong way first. Quite simply, what to avoid after a tough break up.

The Wrong Way to Deal with the Breakup

Once you are told that he wants to leave you, it could feel like your whole world has been ripped apart. It hurts a lot and can send you into a spiral of terrible emotions. One of the toughest things to do at that point is to get control of yourself. What you should not do is fight what he does or says. Usually, our first reaction is to stand our ground and fight our corner. We also ask for reasons why he wants to break up. That is not a good idea. That merely results in more friction.

Another bad idea is to keep harassing him after he has left you. Calling him 20 times per day or text messaging continuously will not help your cause one bit. If you ‘accidentally’ bump into him practically everywhere you go, he may think you are stalking him. Do not look for excuses to meet him or speak with him. Most of these actions will only push him even further away than he his now.

The Right Way to Handle the Breakup

The right way to handle it is to simply accept it from the very beginning. Not only accept it, but go along with it. When he tells you that he thinks you should separate or break up, tell him you have been thinking the same thing. It might not seem like something you should be saying, but it will be better in the end.

As soon as you have agreed that you need to break up, avoid all contact with him. Perhaps go on a little holiday and gather your thoughts. Spend time with your friends and enjoy your new found freedom. You might feel awful inside, but you should make it seem like you are having fun. If you stay active, it will also keep your mind off how terrible you feel.

After you have done that, take some time for yourself. Avoid the urge to call him up and ask him how he's doing. Let him be the one to contact you. If you play the waiting game, he will surely call you up to see how you are. If he does call you up, act as if you are having a good time and you have moved on with your life.

The MeetUp

At some point, he might want to meet you. Accept it and remind yourself to not look at it as a date. Try to picture it as meeting an old friend. Do not mention anything about the past relationship and the breakup. Let him lead the conversation there if he wishes.

This meeting means that you have played your hand perfectly so far. If both of you enjoyed the first meetup, another date will follow and you'll get greater chance to fix your relationship. If you do get back together you will have to keep working hard to keep it that way. Do not go back to your old ways. Otherwise, you may find yourself in an even worse situation.

Don't let your feelings after a break up affect your chance for a reconciliation, take a look at wanting an ex back to see the right way to act after a breakup. Also, read my Get Him Back Forever review to discover an incredibly powerful psychological technique to get him back at your side.

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